In the past the husband went out to work and the relationships wife stayed at home to manage the household.  Times have changed and today she often has to go out to work as well as manage the household.

It is normal to find problems when, at home, the husband happily looks on while his wife does all the work.  In addition she fights to keep the relationship and the marriage intact.  It is therefore normal to find that the relationships wife is often tired and depressed.

When there are relationship problems, the wife should not be the only person trying to resolve them.  The husband must take on his share of tasks and his wife should allow him do so.    Everything that happens, the good or the bad, does not happen because there is a relationships wife as the husband must also take his part of the responsibility.

When a husband finds it difficult to keep his wife happy, he cannot act alone. He can influence her happiness or unhappiness, but she has to be a happy herself and basically satisfied with her life.

You must both have to understand that men and women have differing needs.  So when a problem arise in your relationship, you should both read do some reading  so as to understand these differences and talk them over between yourselves.    In general terms, men consider emotional matters in a way totally different than from women do. One may want something and the other the opposite.

You may believe that things are fairly equally shared in the relationship.   However, when you really think about it, you may start to think differently.    The relationships wife will take on certain roles, their husband others.   When you red some books about the differing needs of men and women, you may see that the repartition is not quite so equally spread as you first thought.

Even if your wife isn't interested in reading such books, do so yourself...  It is more difficult to fix a relationship when you are the only person trying to do the fixing, but try all the same.    Your partner will likely see that they have to change their attitude, as they see you advancing.

The change may not be very noticeable.  You become more thoughtful and respectful when you learn the how to tackle your partner on differing issues, or how they generally handle other matters.

You can never expect to improve the way your partner behaves.  You should not be left doing all the work.  Above all you should both contribute to repairing your relationship and keeping your relationships wife happy.

I recommend that both of you read a book written by T 'Dub' Jackson.  It is no nonsense, simple, easy to read guide called "The Magic of Making Up".  He has been able to help many thousands of people throughout the world, in this and many other situations, successfully resolve their relationship problems.

Joe Basely

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Joe Bisley writes articles about human relationship problems.

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